Cultivating An Eternal Friendship

Our reading is Luke 11:1-4. It was the custom of every rabbi to teach their disciples to pray and each rabbi taught their disciples a unique prayer. For example, John the Baptist taught his disciples a specific prayer. If you knew the prayer, then you knew the rabbi; that specific prayer was their identity. Jesus’ disciples wanted a unique prayer because they wanted to be identified with Jesus. So, they asked Jesus the question in verse one, “’Lord, teach us to pray, just as John taught his disciples.’” The prayer Jesus taught the disciples has become a model of prayer for generations. Obviously, prayer is important! Martin Luther King Jr. (1929-1968) said, “To be a Christian without prayer is no more possible then to be alive without breathing.” What is prayer?

Don’t think of prayer as a way of getting something you desire from God. Think of prayer as a tool used to develop a friendship with God. That shift changes everything. You know how to have friends in this world so let me ask you these two questions. First, if you treated your friends like you treat God, would you have any friends? Second, if you treated God like you treated your friends, how would your relationship with God improve? In this blog, I want to talk about three things that must be present in all your friendships, especially in your friendship with God. These thoughts are not original. They came from United Methodist’s James W. Moore (1938-2019). Each one is illustrated for us in Luke’s version of the Lord’s Prayer. Let me begin.

First, if you want to cultivate a friendship with God, then a spirit of gratitude must be present. Is a spirit of gratitude present in your prayers? Verses two and three say, “He said to them, “When you pray, say: ‘Father, hallowed be your name, your kingdom come. Give us each day our daily bread.’” Those are words of gratitude. You are anticipating God’s blessings. There is no such thing as an ungrateful Christian. If you are a disciple of Jesus Christ, then you are striving to become like Jesus. The Master was thankful for everything. Are you thankful for everything? How many blessings in your life do you take for granted? If you want to be friends with God, then you must be thankful for everything!

I led worship in various churches for forty years. I never served a megachurch. I served small and medium size congregations. It was the custom in those churches to ask for prayer requests. Each week it was the same. Hands would fly up. People asked for all kinds of things. We prayed for replaced knees and hips. We prayed for hearts and lungs. We pray for strangers who are facing terminal illnesses and battling depression. We prayed for dogs whose noses were no longer wet and cold. The list was endless. Everyone seemed to have a prayer request, but our joys are another issue. Periodically, I would ask, “What are you thankful for today?” The reaction is completely different. Instead of hands flying in the air, I got the deer in the headlights look. There was an awkward moment of silence. After a few painful seconds the leader of the group would say something like, “I am thankful I am on the right side of the sod.” Everyone laughed and was relieved it was over. The whole scene was sad. It was not the fear of public speaking, it was the absence of a grateful heart. Jesus was thankful for the simplest things. Do your prayers reflect a spirit of gratitude? If you want to be friends with God, then you must be thankful for everything!

Second, if you want to cultivate a friendship with God, then a spirit of forgiveness must be present. Verse four says, “Forgive us our sins, for we also forgive everyone who sins against us.”  No one is perfect. From time to time our friends disappoint us. It is at that moment we must decide – do we forgive the person, or do we end the friendship? If you want to have a friendship with God, then you must have a spirit of forgiveness. Do the people in your life consider you a forgiving person? When was the last time you forgave someone else? When was the last time you asked God for forgiveness?  

One of the great masterpieces in the art world is Leonardo da Vinci’s (1452-1519) The Last Supper. It is said the great artist had a fight with a fellow painter during its creation. To get back at his foe Leonardo decided to paint his face on Judas Iscariot. He did so and then he turned to work on the face of Jesus. With hatred in his heart, the creative spirit of da Vinci ceased. For several days he couldn’t paint a single stroke. He knew the problem. He had to forgive the fellow painter, and he did. That night Leonardo da Vinci dreamed, and he saw the face of Jesus. That face is the face that appears as Jesus in the Last Supper. The point is clear – we can only encounter God when there is a spirit of forgiveness. Is there someone in your life you need to forgive?  Do your prayers reflect a spirit of forgiveness? If you want to be friends with God, then you must have a spirit of gratitude and forgiveness!

Third, if you want to cultivate a friendship with God, then you must have a trusting spirit. The prayer ends by saying, “lead us not into temptation.”  To be led by someone means you must trust them. Do you trust God? Each one of the spiritual heroes in our faith trusted God. One example is Abraham. Do you remember his story? It is found in the twenty-second chapter of Genesis. For a lifetime Abraham and Sarah waited for a child. Isaac was born in their old age. He must have been the joy of their lives. The story should have ended on a happy note, but we are told Abraham first had to be tested. Abraham must sacrifice the most important thing in his life, Isaac. It is not a story about child abuse or human sacrifice, it is a story about trust. Abraham trusted God. How far to you trust God? Do your prayers reflect a trusting spirit? If you want to be friends with God, then you must have a spirit of gratitude, forgiveness and trust! Let me end with this story.

Mother Teresa (1910-1997) is remembered for her work with the orphans in Calcutta, India. One day, the head cook was upset because a food order hadn’t been delivered and she was expecting three hundred for lunch in less than an hour. Everyone expected Mother Theresa to contact one of her sponsors. Instead, she looked at the kitchen staff and said, “I suggest you go to the chapel and pray about this situation. They did, and ten minutes later a stranger showed up at the front door holding a clipboard. He requested to see Mother Theresa. When she arrived, he said to her, “The teachers have just gone on strike, so school has been canceled today. I have 7,000 extra lunches. Can you help us use them?” Isn’t it great when prayer is answered with a yes?  I learned long ago; God hears all our prayer and answers them in four different ways. Sometimes, God says yes. Sometimes, God says no. Sometimes, God says later. Sometimes, God answers our selfish, narrow-minded prayers by saying, are you crazy? (Like when you pray for the Cleveland Browns to win the Super Bowl.) Never forget, the point of prayer is not getting what you desire. The point of prayer is cultivating a friendship with God. Danish theologian and philosopher Soren Kierkegaard (1813-1855) said, “Prayer does not change God, but it changes him who prays.”