Today, Amanda Knox (born 1987) is an advocate for the unjustly incarcerated and a campaigner for just reform. The reason is obvious. At one time she was unjustly incarcerated. Do you remember her story? She was a University of Washington student who went to Italy to study. It should have been a dream come true, but it became a nightmare. In 2009, she was found guilty of murdering her roommate, Meredith Kercher (1985-2007). In 2011, that verdict was appealed and finally revised. On the day that verdict was read her loved ones gathered, including her grandmother, Elizabeth Huff (born 1942). No one can question Elizabeth’s love for Amanda. She went $250,000 in debt from the legal fees. Huff said, “I have been praying for Amanda every day. She is a good girl, and she needs a hug. I need a hug too!” When was the last time you prayed for a loved one? That takes us to our scripture reading.
Our reading is Philippians 1:3-11. The city of Philippi was a prosperous Roman colony in present day Greece, whose citizens were considered Roman citizens. The background of this epistle is interesting. Paul wrote this letter to them from a Roman prison cell in the year 61 A.D. You can consider it a thank-you note. He is responding to a gift they had sent him. In other words, Paul and the Philippians had a connection; there was an intimate spirit between them. They had history. That congregation understood Paul; they respected Paul. They knew the importance of his mission, so, they sent him an unknown gift. However, the gift wasn’t just a gift – it was a reminder. They wanted him to know he wasn’t alone. They were praying for Paul, and Paul was praying for them. Paul’s prayer is very personal. This blog is about praying for loved ones. Our reading will help you when you pray for your loved ones. Paul’s prayer acts as a model for us. Consider these three things. This is the first one.
When you pray for a loved one, be appreciative. For many years. Kathryn and I traveled to Russia to help orphans who would never be adopted. On many of those trips we traveled to Dmitrov, which is approximately fifty miles north of Moscow. It is the home of the Renewal Orphanage. Those trips were life-changing for everyone who traveled with us.
One year, we took a teenager from my church. I met with his mother before we left.
She said, “I am looking at this trip to Russia as a once in a lifetime opportunity. I want him to see how the rest of the world lives, so he will appreciate the things we have in America!” She was right. It was amazing what you miss about home when you are gone. However, it is my experience, the thing team members miss the most are the relationships they have in America. What do you miss when you travel? Who do you miss when you travel?
When you pray for a loved one, be appreciative. In other words, their very presence is enough for you. Verses three and four say, “I thank my God every time I remember you. In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy.” Those are positive words. How thankful are you for the people in your life? Their very presence is enough. Pray with a positive spirit when you pray for someone in your life. Are you thankful for their very presence? How would your life change if they were suddenly gone? Never take your loved ones for granted, be appreciative. This is the second one.
When you pray for a loved one, be reflective. Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865) was born on February 12, 1809, in Hardin County, Kentucky. He had a hard life as a young man. He wasn’t close to his father, Samuel (1778-1851). Their relationship was difficult. Lincoln didn’t even return home when his father was near death. His biological mother died when he was nine years old. When Lincoln was ten his father married a widow from Elizabethtown, Kentucky, Sarah Bush (1784-1818). She had three children of her own. However, she treated young Abraham like one of her own. Lincoln recognized her as the greatest influence in his life. From the very beginning he called her mother. She was the first one to recognize his brilliance and encouraged him to study.
When you pray for a loved one, be reflective. In other words, reflect on how that person has changed your life. Verse seven says, “It is right for me to feel this way about all of you, since I have you in my heart and, whether I am in chains or defending and confirming the gospel, all of you share in God’s grace with me.” That is not a general proclamation, it is a personal comment. Paul changed their lives by introducing them to Jesus, but they changed Paul life as well. How have the people in your life improved you? Who has had the greatest influence on your life? When you pray for your loved ones, be reflective. This is number three.
When you pray for loved ones, be purpose driven. Verses nine through eleven says, “And this is my prayer: that your love may abound more and more in knowledge and depth of insight, so that you may be able to discern what is best and may be pure and blameless for the day of Christ, filled with the fruit of righteousness that comes through Jesus Christ—to the glory and praise of God.” In other words, Paul is reminding them what is important in life – Jesus!
One of the greatest challenges in life is finding your purpose. Your purpose is not necessarily your profession; the two are not necessarily the same. However, they do stand side by side. Your profession is how you make money. Your money does two things. First, it meets your needs. Second, it funds your purpose. In 1648, The Westminster Confession of Faith was finalized and has influenced the Presbyterian Church since. It says the purpose of life is to glorify God. How are you glorifying God in your life? When was the last time you prayed for someone else’s purpose? Let me end with this question.
When was the last time you prayed for a loved one? It may be an aging parent who is struggling to remain independent. It may be a child on the first day of school. It may be an adult child who is self-destructive. It may be a sibling who can’t keep a job or find love. It may be your spouse, you have a front row seat to their drama. They are tired, stressed out, sick, depressed or overwhelmed. After all, life is not easy. Have you ever prayed for a loved one’s salvation? How could you enjoy eternity without them? Those are personal prayers. I would guess most of our prayers revolve around our closest relationships. How often do you pray for the people in your life? In those prayers be appreciative, be reflective and be purpose driven. American Episcopal clergyman Phillips Brooks (1835-1893) once said, “A prayer is a wish turned Godward.”
Russ Adams 